So one of the things that’s never really talked about as much in term of ADHD, especially adult ADHD, is how difficult it is to manage the emotional side of it. Mentally our brains operate on a faster speed than most people and that can be exhausting in itself, but then when you add in things like a significant event, time of the month and failing to meet our own or others expectations then it’s a recipe heading for a meltdown.
Over the past week I’ve had a lot of personal stuff going on relating to family life etc. I was just beginning to recover from the exhaustion of the kids being off over the summer and back in school, when the queen died. I was very sad about that as I adored her, I can’t tell you how many tears I shed. So as you can tell these past few weeks have been somewhat of an overload (hence me not updating the blog as much).
“I’m so tired of being told how I should handle my ADHD by people who have no idea what it’s like and try to make me feel guilty for not fitting in.”
ADHD gIRL
So, what do I do myself when I feel like this? Well at times like this I find it harder to write, not just my blog, but my novel writing too and it’s a bit like a catch 22 scenario because writing, for me, is an emotional support, yet I can’t write when I’m feeling particularly stressed. However, I do try to be more kind to myself; giving myself more time to do things, speaking to people more, trying to keep myself busy do I don’t overthink things. My faith is also big a comfort for a lot of the trials of life, because I always look at what I can learn from something, even if I don’t like what I’m going through.
The biggest thing to remember is that feelings are flippant, they don’t last forever and neither do situations. There is a saying that most people actually tribute to the bible but in fact isn’t in there and it’s simply this ‘this too shall pass’ Sometimes, we can feel like we’re just a victim of our circumstances, that we are stuck in a never-ending cycle of disappointment, but what we forget to realise is that we can control the narrative of our own story. We have more power than we realise because we often don’t use it, but we can either choose to be a slave to our feelings or we can let our feelings be a slave to us. There is a huge difference between the two.
“Nobody else in the world will ever understand completely what it’s like to be you!”
ADHD gIRL
Of course, that being said, it’s easier said than done when you are being plagued by such negative emotion and circumstances which is why I must circle back to the whole be kind thing. Society places such huge expectations on who we have to be, what we have to do, but the only expectations/ voice we need to listen to is our own. Only we know how much is too much, only we know how we feel because nobody else can live our life for us. It’s hard having ADHD and those who don’t have it can never truly understand! So don’t ever let anybody make you feel bad for doing your own thing or even asking for help. It’s your life to live and nobody else’s!
